Underestimating the value of the homemaker can be dreadful to a society, a family or an individual.

Despite the advances of modern technology such as washing machines, irons and dishwashers, the home is always full of things that need doing. In most families, there is someone who is predominantly the homemaker and child carer – without her the home appears derelict, infact a bedlam. They may not be the primary income earner but their assiduous concern ensures that the family is fed, clothed and reaches school or work on time.

Can people see how much it would cost to hire someone to take their place, if something should happen to them. The housewife’s financial worth is a lot more than most people surmise. Yet surprisingly the homemaker is, at times, overlooked as a value adder. Their loss or debilitating illness also often serves a momentous emotional and financial blow to the family.

Raising kids is one of the most challenging tasks that awaits you in life. There are so many sacrifices to be made, so much of emotional stress to be dealt, but it’s the rhapsodic joy of watching your child grow up, that keeps you going. Since, child care is a full time job in itself, it would be important to decide for a couple how they are going to manage it. Mostly, the responsibility of nurturing the kids falls upon the shoulders of a woman. This is where the fray between stay at home moms vs. working moms comes into picture.

A housewife is today an ideological orphan, having no one to champion her case. At a time when any little aberration or politically incorrect slip-up becomes a raging controversy, it is interesting that this abnormality passes virtually unnoticed.

Even in everyday life, a woman is fatuously asked if she works or not, quite ignoring the fact that a typical housewife is hardly sitting and filing her nails lazily all through the day. A housewife performs an intricate series of tasks that span the functional, emotional and spiritual sides. She allocates fixed resources optimally, taking care to cover a variety of needs, both exigent and long term. She is penitent when any task gets left incomplete, she is almost frenetic in her commitment to home. She is  

referred to as a manager of the home sometimes, but this almost always in jest, quite forgetting that she plays precisely that role in pretty much the same way as managers elsewhere. In addition, she needs no supervision, neither does she demand a work appraisal nor a promotion. Apart from which she functions in most households as the emotional centre of the family around whom the very notion of a home is constructed. She is a manager, counsellor, accountant, provider and cheerleader rolled in one. In both form and content what she does is work. She has no set work hours and is not compensated in terms of money. She has no sundays and no leave.

Working housewives engage four to five category of manpower-babysitter (or a crèche), domestic help for cleaning, cook, school transport provider and a tutor. All of these besides putting a drain on the resources do not provide congenial atmosphere for the growth of the child. Working wives are getting more assertive and egoistic at the emotional level and dull and unromantic at home. I think the role of wife is more than fifty percent and so its monetary value far outweighs the credit she usually gets.


  • Aberration


Contextual Meaning(s) : Noun; state or condition markedly different from the norm

Other Meaning(s) : an optical phenomenon resulting from the failure of a lens or mirror to produce a good image; a disorder in one’s mental state;

Synonyms : distortion, deviance

  • Anomaly


Contextual Meaning(s) : Noun; a person who is unusual; deviation from the normal or common order or form or rule

Other Meaning(s) : noun (astronomy) position of a planet as defined by its angular distance from its perihelion (as observed from the sun);

Synonyms : aberrancy

  • Assiduous


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective: marked by care and persistent effort

Synonyms : sedulous

  • Bedlam


Contextual Meaning(s) : Noun; a state of extreme confusion and disorder

Other Meaning(s) : Noun; pejorative terms for an insane asylum

Synonyms : chaos

  • Calamitous


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective: (of events) having extremely unfortunate or dire consequences; bringing ruin

Synonyms : black, disastrous,

  • Champion


Contextual Meaning(s) : Verb; protect or fight for some cause.

Other Meaning(s) : adjective holding first place in a contest; noun someone who fights for a cause; someone who has won first place in a competition; someone who is dazzlingly skilled in any field; a person who backs a politician or a team etc.;

Synonyms : paladin, maven

  • Chaotic


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; lacking a visible order or organization; completely unordered and unpredictable and confusing;

Other Meaning(s) : Adjective of or relating to a sensitive dependence on initial conditions

Synonyms : helter-skelter, disorderly

  • Congenial


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; suitable to one’s needs or similar to one’s nature

Other Meaning(s) : adjective used of plants; capable of cross-fertilization or of being grafted;

Synonyms : compatible, sympathetic

  • Debilitating


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; impairing the strength and vitality

Synonyms : disabling

  • Derelict


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; in deplorable condition; forsaken by owner or keeper; worn and broken down by hard use;

Other Meaning(s) : adjective failing in what duty requires; ; noun a person unable to support himself; a ship abandoned on the high seas

Synonyms : abandoned ramshackle

  • Discern


Contextual Meaning(s) : Verb; detect with the senses

Synonyms : recognize, distinguish

  • Dreadful


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; very unpleasant; causing fear or dread or terror; exceptionally bad or displeasing

Synonyms : repulsive, sinister


  • Exigent


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; requiring precise accuracy; demanding immediate attention

Synonyms : immediate, exacting

  • Egoistic


Contextual Meaning(s) : adjective; pertaining to or of the nature of egoism

Synonyms : selfish, self-centred

  • Fatuously


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adverb; vacuously or complacently and unconsciously foolish

Synonyms : inanely

  • Fray


Contextual Meaning(s) : Noun; a noisy fight;

Other Meaning(s) : verb wear away by rubbing; cause friction

Synonyms : ruffle

  • Frenetic


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; excessively agitated; transported with rage or other violent emotion

Synonyms : frantic, feverish

  • Insipid


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; lacking interest or significance; lacking significance or impact; lacking taste or flavor or tang

Other Meaning(s) : not pleasing to the sense of taste;

Synonyms : vapid

  • Intricate


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; having many complexly arranged elements; elaborate

Synonyms : complex

  • Jest


Contextual Meaning(s) : Noun; activity characterized by good humor; a humorous anecdote or remark intended to provoke laughter; verb act in a funny or teasing way; tell a joke; speak humorously

Synonyms : jocularly

  • Languidly


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adverb; in a lazy and lethargic manner

Synonyms : lazily

  • Momentous


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; of very great significance

Synonyms : significant

  • Optimally


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adverb; in an ideal and most desirable way

Synonyms : desirably, efficiently

  • Orphan


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; deprived of parents by death or desertion; child who has lost both parents; someone or something who lacks support or care or supervision;

Synonyms : abandoned

  • Penitent


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; feeling or expressing remorse for misdeeds;

Synonyms : repentant

  • Raging


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; very severe; (of the elements) as if showing violent anger; characterized by violent and forceful activity or movement; very intense

Synonyms : furious, tempestuous

  • Rhapsodic


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; feeling great rapture or delight

Synonyms : ecstatic, enraptured

  • Surmise


Contextual Meaning(s) : verb; to conclude that something is the case on the basis of only limited evidence or intuitive feeling

Synonyms : guess, speculate

  • Teeming


Contextual Meaning(s) : Adjective; abundantly filled

Synonyms : full


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